What Have You Done for Me Lately? Entitlement: A Key Narcissistic Trait
A sense of entitlement is a narcissistic, not borderline, trait
Some of these narcissists are honest about their dealings with others. They will practically tell you that they have an utter disregard for others. Other narcissists are a bit more subtle about the unwritten guidelines for living with someone who becomes irrationally angry when others don't go along with their demands. Here are some of the unwritten rules you may be unintentionally following:
- I have the perfect right to do or say whatever I want and no one should object.
- My needs have priority, and if others don't like it they just don't understand my superiority.
- If you don't do what I want I will become highly offended, make threats, plead with you, or criticize and blame you. If that upsets you, that's your fault. And please don't bother me with your feelings about it. It upsets me when you don't see yourself as inferior to me.
- Relationships aren't about give and take. They are about me taking and you giving. If you give and give with the hope that you will one day get your needs met, I will string you along as long as I can.
- When I turn on the pressure until you do what I want, or confuse you until you don't know what's up or down, it teaches me to try these techniques again.
- I like to mix things up by taking care of you and your needs once and awhile. It keeps you off balance, making you more easily controlled, and convinces you I'm really a good person after all.